Drama. She is now picking on my family.*
Background. My new daughter-in-law (DIL) is just a sweetheart. Too much so, some would say. She is so sweet on first impression you almost think she's fake because, honestly, can anyone really be that sweet? That nice? I doubted it until I met this girl. She made a believer out of me. There really are people this nice in the world.
DIL works for a very large company. (I apologize for being extremely vague in this post but I want to get some frustration aired but really don't want to get anyone "dooced", if you get my drift.) She's doing quiet well for herself and we're all very proud of her. Being the generous spirit she is, when a friend of a friend mentions she is job hunting (we'll call her Twink, just for fun) DIL immediately mentions her company has job openings and encourages her to apply. A short time goes by and another friend of Twink who works at the same company (we'll call this friend Betty) also encourages her to apply for a job there.
One day DIL is minding her own business and happens to run into Twink at the office. She inquires what it is that Twink is doing there and when she finds out she's come to apply for a job, she offers to help her right then and there. DIL does some leg work, gets Twink an interview with her own boss, and subsequently Twink ends up with a different job than she originally was applying for – at almost twice the salary! Happy happy! Joy joy! All was right with the world!
Six months go by. Big company has a policy that if someone you recommend for a job stays in the job for at least 6 months, you will get a $1000 bonus. (No small peanuts, eh?) DIL is excited to know Twink is coming up on her 6 months. Twink submits the paperwork that she must instigate for the bonus to be awarded. The boss must sign off on this paperwork, also. But what is this? Twink has said Betty recommended her for the job? WTF? To their credit, the boss has sharp eyes and a keen sense of right and wrong and knows this is not true. The boss brings this to DIL's attention and tries to find out what is going on. DIL doesn't know, so asks Twink. Twink responds that "Betty told me to apply". Of course, DIL is sweet – but she is not stupid – responds "But I was the one who helped you get the job you have now, not the job you were originally applying for." At which time Twink has the nerve to say, "Well, that's because I'm just that good."
Excuse me while I gag.
The boss refuses to pay Betty the bonus because the boss knows it should belong to DIL. Twink refuses to put DIL's name on the paperwork. Therefore, no one gets any money.
It gets better. Now Twink is bad-mouthing DIL every chance she gets. So far, it has only been a couple of mumblings under her breath at work, but the grapevine has it that she went out drinking last weekend at an after-hours company function and said she was going to "Try and find some dirt on that bitch DIL and try to get her fired". People that were at this gathering have been coming up to DIL this week to tell her all about it. Now DIL is very upset because she knows she did nothing wrong but feels terrible that all this drama is taking place.
In discussing this it has come up that Twink has recently lost some good friends due to her tendency to drama. She has been known to drink heavily when they go out, and at one time even claimed she'd been 'roofied' when, in fact, she was with her girlfriends the whole time but simply drank too much to know what the hell she was doing. It has also become clear that she isn't quite the 'good worker' she thinks she is, so it may become a non-issue if she keeps, how shall we say, "shitting in her nest" and ends up getting fired herself.
I told my son to tell her, as did he, that she is a good worker and as much as possible to keep this out of the workplace and to stay professional and that it sounds to me if Twink continues this path she's sure to "step on her dick" (clarifying that this would be appropriate if she were a man, but sometimes there aren't the words to equal for a woman so you just go with the visual that fits). This may all be taken out of DIL's hands by nature. The survival of the fittest, if you will. Still and all? I just don't understand how someone as sweet as DIL can get such a backlash from someone like Twink who obviously didn't appreciate a good thing when it came knocking. Criminy.
* This has nothing to do with persons formerly known as Heather or Thelma.