Ready for a Jammie Day

It's been a long winter.

I finally "moved back home" from my parent's house on Sunday. I had been living with my mom for two weeks. This week I've been driving the 40 miles from home and mom's daily, trying to take care of business things, household things, taking her to the doctor, grocery, etc.

Interestingly enough, I'm finding that my "perfect" dad wasn't quite so perfect. He was an accountant his whole life – working for the state most of his career. He always took care of all the finances and did the taxes and kept my mother in the dark on most of it. After going through their bookwork I was surprised to find four payments to one of my mother's magazines… two months apart. She's now paid up through 2015. We got that cancelled, refund coming. She says she only wrote the checks when dad told her to. His handwriting had gotten so bad that he didn't write checks and if they were needed he'd have her write them. However, I've found a few that he wrote. For the most part they have everything automatically deposited and automatically withdrawn, so that was a relief. Also found some deposits that were just in the bank records as "deposit", so when we go to the bank to get things taken care of there we will try and find out what those were. For an accountant he kept shoddier records than I'd expected.

It took a lot of phone calls to get things switched to her name, but most went smoothly. Still waiting on the death certificates to come to take care of some business that requires them (such as the bank), but expect them any day now.

I'm 'weaning' mom off by only going to her house three times next week (that's the plan, anyway). I'm looking forward to being home this weekend. All weekend.

I'm declaring a jammie day. Hell, maybe even a jammie weekend! Just try and stop me….

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12 thoughts on “Ready for a Jammie Day”

  1. I went through the same thing with my mom, who lived about 30 min. from me in Hawaii — how often is “too often” and not going down there every single day afterward. One the biggest challenges with my step-dad was figuring out what his various passwords for the sites that he used for bills, banks, airline miles, etc.

    For my step-mom, when my dad passed last Fall, she had to refinance their car loan and the house mortgage into her name only (even though she was originally a co-signer). I thought that was strange and what a hassle for someone to have to go through.

    It sounds like you’re holding up okay, which I’m glad to hear.

  2. Wow…Becky brought up something I hadn’t even considered…passwords. Sheesh technology just ads a layer of complication to this dang process doesn’t it. Hang in there Sue…sending you good thoughts, hugs and a BIG WHOOOPING YES on Jammie Weekend!!

  3. You’re still in my thoughts as well, and I’ve been in my jammies for 3 dyas now….

    Well, 2 and a half…I came home early from work on Thursday cause I was getting a cold…..



  4. Enjoy your jammie day and being at home.

    You are such a sweetheart to help your mom like this. I bet she really appreciates your company and help, even if she is in too much grief to show it.


  5. My Inet was down the last couple days, guess what I had a jammie weekend myself! I wrote a little bit, went to the library (was a fun novelty, but internet is so much faster for research, lol) but the rest of the time I kicked back at home and did nothing.

  6. Hey, I was out of the country for a few days and hadn’t been reading your blog. I’m really sorry about your dad. Sounds like you’re dealing with everything and things are going fairly smoothly considering what you’ve been through. I hope you are doing ok; you are in my thoughts and prayers.

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